A launch and a long post

You may not know this but a lot of coaches experience a fear of visibility.

Have I done the work myself? Who am I to coach others? Putting yourself out there, stepping up to lead authentically and wanting to help others - it takes courage.

My fear goes much deeper than that. Although raised in Sydney, I come from a family of Cambodian refugees and I recognise intergenerational trauma in my blood.

Survival during the Khmer Rouge regime required silence, not trusting others, not standing out and not speaking up.

Next, add my own experience. I worked for 14 years as a lawyer. Chameleon-like, I blended into a “corporate mould” and trained to be a professional who doesn’t let their emotions get the better of them.

I’ve been described as bubbly yet intimidating, outspoken and a smiling assassin. I worked hard and I was ambitious, but I was often reminded that I was young, Asian and female.

I’ve been in boardrooms and on transactions as the only female, Asian and youngest. I’ve been mistaken for the tea lady, told to “know my place”, I’ve been disrespectfully laughed at by older opposing male lawyers and I had to “earn” respect when the first assumption was not to take me seriously.

I’ve never had a mentor and I had to back myself, alot. I’ve walked a lonely path but I’m very grateful that I had safety and stability.

Now it’s my time to be seen. And help others.

My website has taken months and to be able to share it with you all is a healing journey of intergenerational trauma for me. And I have broken a cycle that not many people even know about.

I’m genuinely scared, nervous, excited and proud.

So here I am.

Piny Ly. Transformation Coach. Business Consultant. And Soul Healer.